Fashion blogger Hayley from My De Beauvoir Diaries styling a red Proenza Schouler PS11

I’m sat here, writing this post, feeling guilty about spending money on myself. Doh! I do this a lot, it’s not always after buying something really expensive either, it could a meal out with friends or a £5 lipstick.

However, 2nd January 2017 is the day that this is going to stop! Hopefully. I’m sure I’m not alone here, do you ever feel like this? I know I have friends that tell me that they ‘feel the guilt’ after treating themselves to something nice too, and I’m always quick to tell them to stop being silly, so it’s about time I took my own advice.

First I will explain the reason behind this pang of guilt, which you’ve probably guessed by now, I bought this stunning Proenza Schouler PS11 in the Liberty London sale. My bad.

Fashion blogger Hayley from My De Beauvoir Diaries explaining why you shouldn't feel guilty for treating yourself

Did I really need another handbag? Nope. Was a being ridiculous after receiving the bag of my dreams only a couple of days before for Christmas? Maybe, but who cares. I’ve had my eye on it a while and was actually going to buy it a month or so ago, but stopped myself (well done Hayley). So when I swung by the shops the day after boxing day and it was HALF PRICE, how could I not buy it?!

Let’s start the new year as we mean to go on girls! and boys for that matter. This is why we should stop feeling guilty about spending money on ourselves…

Fashion blogger Hayley from My De Beauvoir Diaries styling a red Proenza Schouler PS11

We work hard
Personally, I know I worked my arse off in 2016. I have a full-time 9-5 job, work freelance outside of those hours and also work on this blog/social media for hours, every single day. If all that hard work doesn’t deserve a treat every now and then, then I don’t know what does.

If you work hard for your money, be good and save some, but also make sure to TREAT YO’ SELF!

People will judge you no matter what you do
This is my biggest problem, I worry about what others think of me. Especially now I share lots about my life online, it’s easy for people to get the wrong end of the stick and for them to assume that you must be rich or super selfish spending £100’s or £1000’s on material things like handbags, but this really isn’t the case.

If people want to judge your life, they will. Let them go ahead, do not worry about it. Which brings me on to my next point.

Life is short, do what makes YOU happy
Stop worrying about others and do something for yourself. If you want to spend your money, spend it. If you want to save, save, save, then do that. Personally, I like to do a little bit of both.

Fashion blogger Hayley from My De Beauvoir Diaries styling a red Proenza Schouler PS11

Whatever the reason is behind your guilt, I am sure it’s not needed. Let’s support each other in 2017 and put those feelings of guilt behind us.

Anyway, do you think I’ve justified this purchase enough? I do, I can get on with my day now. Bye.

H x

Location: Central London.
Photos taken with: Olympus Pen E-PL7

Jumper* | Pull & Bear
Shirt | Boohoo
Bag | Proenza Schouler
Sunglasses | Marc Jacobs, similar here.
Trainers | Vans
Earrings | Boohoo
Watch | Cluse
Jeans | Monki


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*This item has been gifted to me for review. I only accept items that I know that my readers and I will love; and that I would pay for myself. All views/opinions are my own and are always honest, of course.

  • Yessss girl – here’s to working your butt off and spending it on whatever you hell you want! People will always judge here and there so you may as well do what you want regardless – as long as it makes you happy! x

  • Miss Finny

    I so understand that feeling! I always feel like that when I splurge on something expensive that I don’t really need (so basically everything I buy 😂😂😅). But my mum always tells me to just enjoy it and be happy that I can afford certain things. Let’s both try to listen to her 😘

    • You know what… your mum is right. What a wise lady, let’s listen to her and enjoy it more xx

  • I don’t know what this says about me but before I buy anything it never crosses my mind to worry about what others would think…. I do somethings feel bad if I buy a really expensive item or if I’m spending when I know I should be cutting back, but like you say I work hard so why not! x

    • It’s only certain people that I worry about, but that’s another story, haha! If you work hard, then you bloody deserve it, in my opinion! xx

  • Haha i never feel guilty! I have earned it with hard work! Happy 2017!

    Sabrina | Gypsy Tan

  • I do agree that you should be able to treat yourself. It is all about balance and that shouldn’t happen all the time but is definitely part of life. I absolutely love your new bag! And half off? That cannot be beat!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Brittney

    Everyone deserves to treat themselves! This was such a great post!

    — Brittney

  • Paula

    Oh I love how you combined these Vans! Such a great Look my dear! And that bag is amazing! xx,Paula,

  • I love your bag and sweater so much! x

    Jessica — NinetyCo

  • I say if something makes you happy- then go for it! The bag is absolutely gorgeous, especially the color 🙂


  • Treat yo’ self! you deserve it!

    xo | Cindy

  • Laura Albouy

    I love this bag! Great choice of color 😉

  • Such a great post! Love your bag!

    Brenda xx

  • Love learning more about you!

  • Julia Comil

    Love your post! And totally obsessed with your bag!!

  • I feel so much better after buying my new Mulberry Mini Cara now…I’m glad I’m not the only one!! Lauren |

  • Diana Maria

    Yes! When you work hard, you deserve to treat yourself and shouldn’t worry about what others think. It’s crazy to think that you can work so hard and still feel guilty for spending a little on yourself, but I’m glad you’re working to change that! I too could take this advice xx

    My Lovelier Days